I’ve been thinking a lot about how vulnerable it is to say, “I need help” or “I need you” to another person, especially when I feel overwhelmed or desperate. It’s often much easier to be the one who does the helping, right?

When I open up and share a need for prayer or for tangible help, or seek genuine companionship, I feel needy. But, I have discovered that it’s really an offer of a tremendous gift.

When I ask for input from someone who’s good at something, they are often encouraged and feel affirmed that I asked. Even if they’re not free to help immediately, it’s a chance for another to come alongside me in friendship and let a relationship come to life.  When I have my hands full, literally or figuratively, and someone offers to open a door or lend a hand, I have a choice. When I accept the offer, the seeds of kindness are planted and the sweetest fruit of trust grows.

But, it IS really hard to ask, because sometimes people say no or ignore the request and it hurts to be ignored or blown off. Still, it’s worth it to ask because the benefits to the helper often surpass the benefits to the one being helped.
So, what shall we do next? Let’s continue to look for opportunities to be a help like we often do. And, let’s ask for help, too. In fact, I dare you to try an intentional experiment and ask for help from someone and see what happens. This risk…this vulnerability… may end up being more powerful than we ever dreamed and more needed than we know.  It may just make someone’s day!

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*Kris Wood is a noted encourager and loves to write devotionals. Kris resides in Wisconsin with her husband Sam and is a champion of entrepreneurs, dreamers and other creatives.  She invests her days as a retreat coordinator, college internship developer, and distributes hope wherever she goes.  Contact Kris atMsKrisWood@gmail.com. You’ll both be glad you did! Kris coordinated the Christian Writer’s Conference at Green Lake this August.

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