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COVID-19 Makes It Crucial to Be More Thoughtful with Your Words

This tongue-in-cheek question reveals the perils of constant contact with the same person or persons. Before COVID-19, the complaint was that I do not have enough time for my family.

The pandemic has brought extra urgency for “Say Something Nice Day” on June 1, and “Say Something Nice Sunday” on June 7.

We need to be extra considerate with those with whom we share the same space.

Little annoyances we would hardly notice when rushing about following our daily pursuits get more annoying when we are spending day and night with the same people for weeks.

We need to be more careful with our words. Words are powerful. Words can bring hurt or healing.

During this unwanted pause in our lives, we need to take care that our words are comforting and healing. We do not want to contribute to further anxiety or stress.

Remember that noise, especially loud noise, increases tension. Loud voices sound angry. We want to avoid both.

Conspiracy theories raise anxiety levels, so be sure to review carefully all of the information you are sharing. People are already on edge about their jobs, their investments and their future employment.

This is a time for contemplation about what our future looks like. We know it will not be the same. There is no going back to yesterday and so much feels out of our control.

Yet, we always have the power to choose our words with care. Say kind things to those around you. Don’t pick a fight out of boredom. It is easy to do. This situation is no one’s fault.

We will get through this and will be better because we will have developed new skills, found new ways of doing things and experienced new ways to worship.

However, we must continue to believe in one another and keep the common good in mind.

Speak words of encouragement; speak them with sincerity and speak them often. We will overcome. You will be amazed at how helpful kind words can be when someone who cares speaks them.

No one is urging you to be insincere or dishonest. We are all being urged to be our best selves. These days are tough, but we have been through hard times before. We are stronger than any situation.

One day at a time might give way to one hour at a time or even one minute at a time.

Somewhere I read that we can tell ourselves, “I’ve got this moment. I don’t know about the next one, but I’ve got this one.” We are resilient.

Scripture tells us over and over, “Fear not.” Arthur Caliandro, the late pastor of Marble Collegiate Church in New York City, was fond of saying, “Be kinder than you think it necessary to be because the other person needs it more than you know.”

Our situation calls for us to be kinder. Our words are so important.

The pandemic has shown us once more that we are dependent on one another. The air we breathe connects us.

Let’s vow not to poison our air with hateful speech. Once ugly words are spoken, they cannot be recalled or erased. They are out there doing harm forever.

Why do we have “Say Something Nice Day” and “Say Something Nice Sunday”? We have them because we need them now more than ever.

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Breaking Through the Noise

 

In today’s intoxication with celebrities and the latest person grasping for her or his fifteen minutes of fame, how do you penetrate the noise and get a hearing? McDonald’s has the golden arches. President Obama has the bully pulpit. Sarah Palin has the Tea Party? What do you have or what can you develop or create?

Who are you? Why would I want to know you? What do you have that I need or what can you do that will help me accomplish my goals? Spend some time with yourself and answer these questions. What skills do you have that are important to others? Make a list, but be honest. Are there any of those that you do better than most of the people that you know? Do you have any area of special knowledge? Are you an expert in any area or would you like to become one? Do you have a passion for any particular area? Life without passion is hardly life at all.

How do you want to spend your life? That sounds like a big complicated question, but it really is not. Write a mission statement for your life. This can take some time, but don’t worry. You can revise it from time to time. What part of this do you already have? What kinds of endeavors require your kinds of skills? Which areas interest you? Now, go into your mental closet. What would the person that you have described be like?

How would she or he dress? How would he or she sound? Would he or she write articles or books? Would he or she make speeches or appear on television? Would he or she be a computer geek, an evangelist or a marketing guru?

No matter which area you choose, make yourself an authority on the subject. Read! Read! Read and then read some more.  Make a list of those who are authorities on the subject and question them. You can do this in person or by E-mail, telephone or snail mail. Develop a small group of trusted advisers that you meet with on a routine basis and ask for guidance and help. Listen to what they say. Contribute articles to trade publications. Start a blog and post to it several times each week. Seize every opportunity offered to make speeches. Keep them current and keep them centered on your area of expertise.  Be helpful in every way you can to others. Attend workshops or conferences for those in your field and network like crazy. Research the people you want to meet at these affairs so that you will have something to talk about with him or her. In other words start being the person you want to be.  There is no better time. None of this means that you have to give up your present job unless it is totally incompatible with what your goals. This is why spending some time getting to know yourself is so important.

At the end of each day ask yourself this question and answer it honestly. What have I done today that moves me toward my goal?

Make certain that you present a congruent image. Your materials should accurately represent you. Your correspondence should reflect your image. Be especially careful that you put nothing on Facebook or Twitter that would call your image into question.

The most important step is to start. Stop waiting for the ideal time or until things get better. Stop talking about what you are planning to do and do it.

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Breaking through the Noise

            In today’s intoxication with celebrities and the latest person grasping for her or his fifteen minutes of fame, how do you penetrate the noise and get a hearing? McDonald’s has the golden arches. President Obama has the bully pulpit. Sarah Palin has the Tea Party? What do you have or what can you develop?

            Who are you? Why would I want to know you? What do you have that I need or what can you do that will help me accomplish my goals? Spend some time with yourself and answer these questions. What skills do you have that are important to others? Make a list, but be honest. Are there any of those that you do better than most of the people that you know? Do you have any area of special knowledge? Are you an expert in any area or would you like to become one? Do you have a passion for any particular area?

            How do you want to spend your life? That sounds like a big complicated question, but it really is not. Write a mission statement for your life. This can take some time, but don’t worry. You can revise it from time to time. What part of this do you already have? What kinds of endeavors require your kinds of skills? Which areas interest you? Now, go into your mental closet. What would the person that you have described look like?

            What would he or she wear? How would he or she sound? Would he or she write articles or books? Would he or she make speeches or appear on television? Would he or she be a computer geek, an evangelist or a marketing guru?

            No matter which area you choose, make yourself an authority. Read! Read! Read and then read some more.  Make a list of those who are authorities on the subject and question them. You can do this by E-mail, telephone or snail mail. Develop a small group of trusted advisers that you meet with on a routine basis and ask for guidance and help. Write articles in trade publications. Start a blog and post to it several times each week. Seize every opportunity offered to make speeches. Keep them current and keep them centered on your area of expertise.  Be helpful in every way you can to others. Attend workshops or conferences for those in your field and network like crazy. Research the people you want to meet at these affairs so that you will have something to talk about with him or her. In other words start being the person you want to be.  There is no better time. None of this means that you have to give up your present job unless it is totally incompatible with what your goals. This is why spending some time getting to know yourself is so important.           

            Make certain that you present a congruent image. Your materials should accurately represent you. Your correspondence should reflect your image. Be especially careful that you put nothing on Facebook or Twitter that would call your image into question. 

            The most important step is to start. Stop waiting for the ideal time or until things get better. Stop talking about what you are planning to do and do it.

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