Good conversation like good music or a good book nourishes the soul. Good communication builds relationships. Nothing says more about a person’s caring than his or her willingness to listen without judgment or interruption. Sometimes our greatest ministry is simply to be one hundred percent present in the moment.

There are times when there are no words capable of conveying what is in our hearts, but there are no times when being one hundred percent present with another is not effective. Raymond DeShazo, former professor at Mars Hill University, was fond of saying, “The way you know when you really love another person is when you can be in a room together for hours and neither of you says a word. Just being present is enough.”

We all need and search for connectedness. We know how it feels to be in a crowd and yet feel utterly alone and isolated. We need and want to belong. We need to touch and be touched. We can be warmed by another person’s smile or simple acknowledgement.

The ability to communicate is a gift. We can bless others by the way we use our gift to heal, to build-up and not to harm. Conversely we can use our gift to tear down, to harm, and to destroy relationships.

My mother and my late wife had the same favorite Scripture passage. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be acceptable unto thee oh God my strength and my redeemer.” They both understood that what comes out of our mouth is a result of what is in our heart. If the heart overflows with love that is what we will speak.

One of my most cherished books is, As a Man Thinketh, by James Allen.  Allen stresses that what we think about is what we will become. We can control our lives by controlling our thoughts. If we fill our minds with good will toward others that is what we will express and demonstrate.